Musings of a seasoned traveller on The Way
DIVORCE AND RE-MARRIAGE
I have read with interest all the responses on this difficult subject, and all the quotations given for this argument or that. As one who went through a very painful divorce some forty years ago, and had to work extremely hard to create and maintain a very modest home thereafter, I would remind all, that God created us, knows us, knows our needs and our weaknesses and made laws because He wanted the very best for us, not just to punish. We punish ourselves by not heeding in the very first place, ‘Seek first the Kingdom of God’ If we did that, and taught our children to do that, we could save ourselves a great deal of hurt and pain. Marriage and Holy Matrimony are two very different things.
One writer says so accurately that divorce merely ends the intimacy of marriage. It certainly cannot end the marriage and folk who believe it does, are indeed deluding themselves - My late husband and I were a great deal more honest with each other, with more respect for each other as human beings, than I see in a great many ‘marriages’ and although he married again, to divorce a second time, a friendship remained between us. Marriage is, after all, intended to be a mutual support and comfort and I believe that at the end, he understood , while onlookers might not. Our two children married and settled - no excessive drinking, no drugs, and never promiscuous - thanks be to God. There are many, many reasons why folk marry inadvisably and in innocence , (war destroys families and can have long-term repercussions on the growth of survivors) and many reasons where that precious intimacy is not what it was intended to be, for not all are truly suited to marriage, but Our Heavenly Father is a loving and forgiving Father to those who deeply repent - it is human beings who find it so hard to forgive the sins of others. ’Let Him who is without sin, cast the first stone’ - We must learn to be less quick in judgement of others, and leave Judgement to Our Father God who sees into the heart of every one of us. Yes, indeed, He demands a Holy people to inherit the Kingdom, and He will have it - for the Way is open to all, including the innocent children of those who married wrongly, when we turn to our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. (suffer the little children to come unto me) The real sin at this time in the UK, which should be the concern of all who live here and claim Christ as Saviour, is having allowed our Creator God to be pushed to the edge of our society and largely out of our schools, when His rightful place is bang in the centre - and I recommend that all download Chris Hill’s Sermon from the Tree of Life on ‘Spiritual Warfare’ - which may stop us all looking at each other’s faults, and first and foremost set to work on ourselves, for there is much work to be done if we are to be true followers of Our Lord. As Chris so rightly cried out ‘Soldiers of Christ arise, and put your armour on’ -
Praise be to God.
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divorce and remarriage
I wrote before saying divorce doesn't destroy a marriage it only destroys intimacy. What I meant was is it destroys "sexual intimacy in a marriage", but it need not destroy communication that would lead towards rconciliation and resoration. My husband divorced me 15 years ago. After I forgave him, and quit judging him after realizing I too was just as guilty by fallen far short of God's plan for us. Today my husband finds me a safe person to be around, and his latest girlfriend kissed me on the cheek at a family gathering because I was kind to her. She left and my husband stayed behind because he was having too much fun to go home. We have 7 children and 13 grandchildren that we are very proud of. Our 7 children were brought into God's kingdom suddenly after I made my decision to stand and fight for my family. With God nothing is too hard or too impossible. He brought our 7 adult children into a sudden revelation that He was God and they were not, so why not their father. He is turning my husband's heart back to his children and I believe is can break this curse off our land if we humble ourselves and turn from our wicked ways. With God nothing is too hard or impossible. His plan is to prosper us and not harm us. He is merciful and kind to those who don't deserve it.
Divorce and remarriage
In many of the churches I have been a part of, in my many Pastoral moves within the US, divorce seems to have been classed as the only "unforgivable" sin. No scripture for it, it just is, or so it seems. There are many times divorce is necessary. Sexual sins are not the only reason. I would add abuse. Both for man and/or wife, physical or mental. I have seen both men and women abused, just that the husband doesn't want to admit it. In much of my counseling on marriage, all else failing, my question to the couple, both private and together is; "Just which one of you has now become an unbeliever?" First Corinthians 7:15 says "Let the unbeliever depart." So if you are turning your back on your "till death do us part" partner, are you also turning your back on God? Then, after some reflection, we can get down to some serious conversations.
divorce and remarriage
Earlier I wrote that divorce doesn't end a marriage it only ends intimacy, what I meant was it ends "sexual intimacy", but it should never end communication that would lead towards reconciliation and restoration. My husband divorced me some 15 years ago but I still work towards reconciliation and restoration. I have forgiven my husband and don't judge him because we have all fallen short of God's plan. My husband finds me a safe person to be around today. His latest girlfriend kissed me on the cheek at a family gathering because I was kind to her, then she left and my husband stayed behind because he was having too much fun to go home. We Have 7 children and 13 grandchildren for which we are very proud of, and God has bless me by bringing them into His kingdom suddenly shortly after my decision to stand and fight for my family. Our children and grandchildren pray for our family resoration. I believe nothing is impossible or too hard for my God. He is quite able to restore us in His time. He brought 7 adult children into a sudden revelation, why not their Father who has begun to turn his heart back to his children. I believe this curse can be broken off our land, if we humble ourselves and repend of our wicked ways. God is good and His mercies are new every morning. I believe God's plan is to prosper us and not harm us.