What are the views on the issue of divorce and remarriage from a Hebrew and biblical perspective
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BOB DOTY answers ...
Answer: this is a subject that has caused probably more trouble in the church than anything and still isn't understood correctly. Here are some, but not all, general guidelines:
A. In the beginning God intended marriage to be permanent (Matt. 19:4-6).
B. Because of the hardness of people's hearts, God instructed Moses to write divorce into the Law(Deut. 24:1; Matt. 19:8,9).
C. If a man divorces his wife and then remarries her after she has married another man in the mean time, then they are living in adultery (Deut. 24:2-4).
D. There are several reasons besides adultery that were accepted as legal for a bill of divorcement listed in the Mishnah. All of the Scriptures need to be studied in their proper context which cannot be done here. Every effort should be made to restore the marriage before divorce is used.
E. God forgives.
EVETTE LEWIS answers ...
From a Biblical perspective, Divorce is allowed where one party has committed adultery - and even looking at another person is considered adultery. Yeshua stopped a woman from getting stoned to death for being an adulterer, so I don't think any of us can judge, if He was willing to love this woman, despite her position.
What's more, He understands how tough relationships can be, and loves both parties, so it's worth noting that even though marriages are supposed to be for a lifetime, they do brake down, and He can be console and comfort both. He can also help before things get to late, if allowed to - it's worth praying whent things hit the rocks, turn to The Rock!
From our position with G-d - He calls it Divorce when the relationship breaks down and we go after other idols or 'gods' and is jealous - Isaiah 50 v 1-2
This is what the LORD said when the people had turned away from Him: "Where is your mother's certificate of divorce with which I sent her away? Or to which of my creditors did I sell you? Because of your sins you were sold; because of your transgressions your mother was sent away.
When I came, why was there no one? When I called, why was there no one to answer? Was my arm too short to ransom you? Do I lack the strength to rescue you? By a mere rebuke I dry up the sea, I turn rivers into a desert; their fish rot for lack of water and die of thirst.
If a marriage is going wrong, then put G-d first - pray and have faith - love can be poured into the situation, and the Lord can help. I have been there and it works!!
In regards to remarriage, when the Samaritan woman said - He told me my life story - and Yeshua had spoken to her, about her husbands and lovers, she did not say - and He rebuked me and said I won't get to Heaven now.. He still loved her.
Getting divorced and remarried will not separate you from G-d - turning your back on Him will. So the important thing is that you are loved by Him, and though people make mistakes, they may be held to account, by themselves, and others, but they are still loved by G-d.
RABBI JOSEPH KRESEFSKY answers ...
Your question is an excellent one; however, the response is not as easy as one might think.
Judaism has recognized the concept of "no-fault" divorce thousands of years ago. Judaism has always accepted divorce as a fact of life, albeit an unfortunate one. Judaism generally maintains that it is better for a couple to divorce than to remain together in a state of constant bitterness and strife. Under Jewish law, a man can divorce a woman for any reason or no reason.
From a Biblical perspective, let’s see what our Heavenly Father says about divorce, Malachi 2:14-16 – “You ask, "Why?" It is because the L_rd is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the L_rd made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth. "I hate divorce," says the L_rd G_d of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself with violence as well as with his garment," says the L_rd Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.”
That’s pretty clear to me how G_d feels about divorce.
If you wish to carry it one step further, since Yeshua is G_d, let’s look at what Yeshua has to say: Matthew 5:31-32 – “It has been said, 'Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”
And still yet another opinion from Rav Sha’ul (the Apostle Paul) from 1 Corinthians 7:10-16 – “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”
I think that sums it up pretty well. The real question is, “What is best to follow, man’s way or G_d’s way?”
RABBI CRAWFORD answers ...
There are 3 reasons for divorce and or remarriage according to scripture, and you may not remarry the same spouse after a divorce. G-d gave Yisra’el a certificate of divorce (Jer 3). While Revelation speaks of a Jewish wedding, the groom is now the son. That is what he inherited- the right to marry the bride.
HENRY BRINKMAN answers ...
The issue of divorce is not too hard to handle. The Bible is pretty plain on the divorce issue. GOD hates divorce. God allowed men to hand out written decrees of divorce, because of the hardness of their hearts. Man has made good use of these things and even in Old Testament times the divorce issue was pretty prevalent. Man seems to have this tendency to make the laws fit to there liking and to manipulate things for their betterments. So today we have the divorce rate at 53% in both the secular world and the Christian world.
Now the remarriage part is the hard part. The Bible tells us that He who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Adultery was punishable by death. So you have a circle effect. If you divorce you can not remarry or you commit adultery? Now we need to look at the laws regarding adultery and we shall see how stringent they are. What does this then mean? Divorce is only allowed in the case of adultery, so we have decided that the marriage is then dissolved and made null and void. In GODS eyes marriage is forever, and He states that what He has put together no man shall part. It is therefore imperative that we make sure that the partner we choose is indeed chosen by GOD. We therefore need the wisdom and foresight to choose according to the will of GOD. Do we have that patience?